What defines your life?

Carey Nieuwhof

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Something is going to define your life and mine. It will.

I know that when I die, my kids are going to stand around and say many things, but inevitably it will get reduced to a sentence or two that begins this way: "Dad was…."

The reason I love to think about the now is because we still are able to change and influence what our lives will be about.

The sad part is that too many people don't think about what their life will be about. We just kind of live it, and in the end, we hope it will be good enough.

And I know my drift (when I'm not intentional) is to make my life about things that matter less, not more.

So what's it going to be about for you? Who do you want to be?

I've been to too many churches where in the end, the church is dying because it was about the whims, wants and preferences of the members and not enough about Jesus and the world He died for.

Your life will be about something. So will mine. And our collective life will be about something too. We all end up being about something.

This article was first published atcareynieuwhof.com. Used with permission.


Carey Nieuwhof is a former lawyer and founding pastor of Connexus Church. He’s the author of several best-selling books, including, Didn’t See It Coming: Overcoming the Seven Greatest Challenges That No One Expects But Everyone Experiences. Carey speaks to leaders around the world about leadership, change and personal growth. Learn More »

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