My 7 do-overs after over 40 years in ministry

Charles Stone

My 7 do-overs after over 40 years in ministryadobe

In my 40-plus years in ministry I've served as a singles pastor, discipleship pastor, teaching pastor, church planter, and as a lead pastor.

I've served in the deep south (the land of grits, I live there now), the southwest (the land of Mexican buffets), the far west (the land of fish tacos), the mid-west (the land of Chicago hot-dawgs), and in Canada (the land of poutine; I wondered what that was too. Google it.).

Three kids, five grandkids, and seven books later, each experience has made me a more rounded leader.

Yet, as I look back, I think I'd have done a few things differently. Here's a list of my do-overs.

  1. I wouldn't have been so much of a people pleaser.
  2. I would have carved out more time to think and reflect.
  3. I would have more consistently disconnected one day each week.
  4. I would have spent more time building closer friendships with other pastors.
  5. I would have turned off my smart-phone and computer more often.
  6. I would have read twice as many books as I actually did.
  7. I would have listened more and talked less.

As I enter my life's 'quarter-time,' I hope to apply some of these lessons better going forward.

What would be your biggest do-over?


Charles Stone coaches and equips pastors and teams to effectively navigate the unique challenges ministry brings. By blending biblical principles with cutting-edge brain-based practices he helps them enhance their leadership abilities, elevate their preaching/ teaching skills, and prioritize self-care. A pastor for over 42 years, he has served as a lead pastor, associate pastor, and church planter. He published seven books, and over 300 of his articles have appeared on various Christian leadership websites. He holds four earned academic degrees, including a D.Min. and a Ph.D.

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