Criticizing people who aren’t at your meeting – what’s wrong with that? Three things.
In this one minute video strategy, you will learn about three reasons why you must avoid the strong temptation to talk about people who aren't at your meeting. The reasons are,
It gives only one side of the story.
It undermines board participation.
It's not biblical. Jesus states in Matthew 18:15,
"If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother."
And Proverbs 29:11 reminds us, "A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back."
For more than 30 years, Dr. Bob Whitesel's mission has been to help church leaders reach their full missional potential. He has coached hundreds of church boards and pastors toward greater health and growth, often working at the denominational and adjudicatory levels. His educational background includes two doctorates from Fuller Theological Seminary, as well as many years of teaching seminary students and training other consultants. He has spoken at numerous conferences and regularly posts articles at www.Leadership.church and BiblicalLeadership.com. An author of 14 books, Bob's most recent titles include Growing the Post-pandemic Church: A Leadership.church Guide (2020), Enthusiast!: Finding a Faith That Fills (Wesleyan Publishing House, 2018), and re:MIX: Transitioning Your Church to Living Color (co-authored with Mark DeYmaz, Abingdon Press, 2016). Subscribe here for more one- to three-minute church leadership strategy videos: www.Leadership.church/videos.
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Bob Whitesel (D.Min., Ph.D.) is a foresight coach, professor, and award-winning author of 14 books. For over 30 years, he has guided leaders and churches to pivot and engage what’s next. He holds two earned doctorates from Fuller Theological Seminary and teaches on leadership foresight, church health, and organizational change. His website is www.ChurchForesight.com. Learn More » |
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