Earning relational authority in peer to peer leadership

Jenni Catron Nov. 2, 2023

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I want to delve deeper into a topic that often arises during my coaching sessions with teams—peer-to-peer leadership.

How do you lead or influence your co-workers when you lack direct authority over them?

Learning to lead without holding positional power is where we truly hone our leadership influence and pave the way for future opportunities. Whether you're navigating the complexities of a larger organization, or leading a tight-knit team, mastering peer-to-peer leadership is crucial.

So, let's dive into the essence of this leadership style and explore three ways to earn that all-important relational authority.

1. Give and earn respect

Respect is not just a buzzword; it's a fundamental building block of leadership, especially in peer-to-peer dynamics. The essence of respect lies in both giving and earning it. So, how do you earn it?

It begins with three pillars: consistency, dependability, and accountability. When you commit to something, follow through on your word, even when no one is watching. This level of integrity resonates with your peers and sets a standard for reliability within your team.

In the words of Philippians 2:3, "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility, value others above yourselves." To earn respect, we must prioritize others and put their needs before our own. This selflessness builds trust, an essential component of any influential leader's toolkit.

2. Combat silos, don't create them

In the world of peer-to-peer leadership, the concept of "team" takes center stage. It's crucial to remember that, even without formal authority, we're all on the same team working toward a common goal. There's simply no room for territorialism. After all, nothing truly belongs to any one of us; it's a collective effort.

Let's aspire to be the kind of teammates we'd want to have. Reflect on the qualities of an outstanding team player and embody those qualities within your team. Encourage collaboration and inclusivity, as these actions strengthen the bonds that tie your group together.

3. Communicate clearly
Effective communication is the lifeblood of any successful team. As peer leaders, sharing information freely is not just a choice; it's a mark of genuine leadership. Keep in mind that people can only get behind what they understand. Therefore, if you possess essential information, share it with your peers generously. Avoid the temptation to hoard knowledge, as it's a selfish act that hinders the team's progress.

And don't shy away from challenging conversations. While addressing issues head-on might be uncomfortable, it's necessary for individual and organizational growth. Always ask yourself the pivotal question: "Who needs to know this?" Being intentional about your communication demonstrates that you're thinking beyond your personal interests.

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Jenni Catron is a writer, speaker, and leadership coach who consults churches and non-profits to help them lead from their extraordinary best. As Founder and CEO of The 4Sight Group, she consults with individuals and teams on leadership and organizational health. Learn More »

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