4 spiritual disciplines leaders often neglect
The terms spiritual disciplines and spiritual formation refer to what we do to build healthy souls. We all want that. They serve as a means to an end, to become more like Jesus, not as ends in themselves.
The most common ones include Bible reading, fasting and prayer. While I believe that most pastors/leaders somewhat regularly practice the main ones, I have a hunch that we may often unintentionally miss these four. As you read each one, ask yourself when you last practiced it.
1. Not having to have the last word
Keith Meyer, pastor and author, tells a story about a student in one of Dallas Willard’s classes. At the end of one class, a student rudely challenged him with a question. With Dallas’s keen mind he could have crushed him with an answer. Yet, he gently responded with, “Well, that’s a great question and a good time to end class.”
After the class, several angry and supportive students came up to him asked why he didn’t answer. He said, “I was practicing the discipline of not having to have the last word.”
2. Solitude for the extrovert and community for the introvert
Introverts usually practice solitude easily yet may find it difficult to intentionally break their alone time to be with others. The opposite holds true for the extrovert. Silence and solitude can feel excruciating for an extrovert.
Often we need to do the opposite of what comes easy for the greatest impact on our souls.
3. Submission for a Type-A, high-D personality
Both those descriptions reflect my personality. I like to be in charge and lead the way. It’s hard for me to take a back seat. Yet when I do so with a right heart, it counters the temptation to become prideful.
4. Confession
No one likes to be wrong. Yet, when we do wrong, when we sin, Scripture tells us to confess it. It is easier to confess it to God in private. It’s hard to confess it to others against whom we’ve sinned. Yet when we appropriately confess our sin to others, God gives us a deep sense of cleansing and peace in our souls.
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 | Charles Stone coaches and equips pastors and teams to effectively navigate the unique challenges ministry brings. By blending biblical principles with cutting-edge brain-based practices he helps them enhance their leadership abilities, elevate their preaching/ teaching skills, and prioritize self-care. A pastor for over 42 years, he has served as a lead pastor, associate pastor, and church planter. He published seven books, and over 300 of his articles have appeared on various Christian leadership websites. He holds four earned academic degrees, including a D.Min. and a Ph.D. Learn More » |
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